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The Loss of a Loved One

There is something I would like to discuss with my readers or the world in general.

You know that icky feeling you get when you lose someone? I don’t know about all of you but I get that feeling even when I know someone who loses someone close to them. Doesn’t even matter if I am not close to that person; I feel their pain.

That feeling is called empathy. According to the Oxford Dictionary empathy is defined as:

The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

If that doesn’t give you goose bumps then you need to go watch something frightening just to make sure you have feelings.

I have worked in customer service in retail for six years and now at a local bank for almost one year. I have met a ridiculous amount of people (co-workers and customers) who have lost someone close to them or experienced a trying life. It always amazes me how these people handle loss and the struggles of life.

These people will tell you that it is life, and life goes on.

True, certainly, but holy cow. What did this person go through in order to feel almost completely detached from the situation? I’m not kidding people I become an emotional bag of tears when someone tells me something sad. I cry when I get angry. I work my tear ducts almost daily. For example, you know the videos on Facebook of the soldier coming home from wherever and their girlfriend/wife/dog greet them upon their return? Yeah?

Emotional.

Bag.

Of.

Freaking.

Tears.Kid-in-puddle-of-tears

All over the place. We are talking blubbering snot tears. The gross crying. The crying that means “Please God do not let this ever be me.” Because we ALWAYS hope that someone’s else’s pain will not be ours. Awesome, right?

So there are those really strong people you know have been through some major shit, and then there are the people you see who mention their loss and you see their eyes glaze over and you KNOW they are remembering their loved one. How does ANYONE not cry in that situation? Tears man, I become a mess.

I often wonder what they heck my emotional tear bags are doing working around people who are going to lose someone and then tell me…

Oh don’t mind me, I am just going to blubber over in the corner for you and the sadness I see in your eyes…

What brought me to thinking about this is in the past two months my hometown has lost several young people. My current town has lost several of its residents in this small timeframe as well. I don’t know if that is a sign of how 2016 is going to be, but I certainly hope not.seal

You know the song Hello by Adele? I mean how can you not, it is playing everywhere you go. Well, Boyce Avenue did a cover version of it and I currently have it on repeat on my phone because I felt too much this week.

I hope that every person that experiences loss can find comfort in SOMETHING and know that someone is thinking about them and hoping they are doing okay.

You are never alone even in your most darkest, loneliest times. Someone is always with you or a phone call away. And if you don’t have someone like that then comment on here and I will be that person for you.

Seriously guys, life is far too short to live it alone.

I also delve in a little bit of fanfiction. Check it out here! My husband, Mr. Steiner, writes video game reviews! Check them out here!

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